Sexual arousal in men is a complex process. This includes the processing of external information (what the stronger sex sees and hears), psychological readiness for sex, anticipation of pleasure and the immediate physiological reaction of the body. It is useful for every woman to know how this process occurs in guys and how to speed up arousal.
Where does it all begin?
The onset of excitation is set by a variety of sensory stimuli. A girl's smell, her kisses and touches, external appearance (especially without clothes) stimulate centers in the brain that transmit a signal to the genitals through the nervous system.
Hormones are involved in this process. Dr claimsJohn Bancroft, an American sexologist and 4th part-time director of the Kinsey Institute for Sexual Research, that the level of testosterone in the blood determines the degree of excitability of a man. This conclusion was made as a result of a study, the results of which were published in the Journal of Endocrinology in the article "Endocrinology of sexual arousal. "
As a result, construction occurs. This is the filling of the cavernous bodies of the penis with blood. The muscles contract and prevent venous outflow, because the penis becomes hard, increases (on average 3-4 times), and pulsation is felt. Such a reaction often occurs within a few seconds of sexual stimulation. Interestingly, during foreplay, erection can weaken and strengthen again - this is completely normal.
The British Journal of Urology International published a study conducted among 20 thousand men. The sizes of their genitalia were measured. Men from all over the world participated. As a result, it turned out that the average penis size at rest is 9. 16 cm, and during erection - 13. 12 cm.
There are three types of erections. One of them – nocturnal (spontaneous) – occurs without sexual overtones. The other two go with sexual stimulation in men.
Psychogenic (or psychological) - occurs against the background of the excitation of centers in the brain. Nerve impulses are transmitted to the spinal cord, then along the nerves to the reproductive system.
Reflex – appears as a result of touching the penis. Since this organ has many nerve endings and its skin is extremely sensitive, even light touches can cause irritation and blood flow to the penis.
In addition to erection, a man's pulse quickens, his breathing becomes faster, and his blood pressure rises (as in the female half of the population). The scrotum becomes thicker and may become more compact, and the testicles rise. The upper body turns a little red. Lubricating fluid is released, facilitating the movement of sperm through the canal.
What turns men on?
In addition to a beautiful picture (naked woman, or dressed in lace lingerie, dancing, seductively posed, etc. ), foreplay plays a big role. Men also need it to make arousal as strong as possible. The surest way for a girl to turn a guy on is to stimulate his sensitive areas. These include:
- Head, neck and chest;
- abdomen (especially the lower part) and back;
- Genital organs and surrounding areas.
Foreplay, in most cases, begins with kissing. A passionate kiss from a girl can already cause an erection and put a man in the right mood. There are many nerve endings on the lips; in addition, he senses his partner's sexuality and anticipates upcoming sex. At this time, the occipital area can be stroked with your hands; this area is also very sensitive. Many men like it when their earlobes are kissed and cut, but you need to be careful with this, because there are people who categorically do not like this process.
The lower abdomen is a great area for caresses before oral sex (from the navel down). The back is suitable for erotic massage. By the way, it can be done not only with your hands, but also with your lips, hair, and bare chest.
With the genitals, everything is clear - any movements in this area are welcomed and cause sexual arousal in men. You should be wary of sudden movements; boys may fear for the safety of their dignity. Blowjob, manual techniques - all this maximizes the desire of the partner. Among the nearby areas are the inner thighs, which can be caressed with your hands.
Representatives of the stronger sex get excited quickly. But they need more time (from several hours to a day) to rest and fully recover after sex than women, since the process takes a lot of energy from them. Therefore, repeated sexual arousal may not occur quickly for all men, and this should be treated with understanding.
Sexual stimulation in men
When you see a partner who is sexually attractive to you, you become aroused first psychologically and then physically. But how this happens is a small question for most people. What does the science say? She considers arousal to be a sexual physiological response.
Or rather, his first step. That is, a whole set of processes. They do not have gender differences: increased breathing and heart rate, the appearance of muscle tension, increased blood pressure, increased salivation, dilated pupils, the appearance of redness and goosebumps, as well as nipple erection.
With sexual arousal, psychological behavior, gaze and voice change. This is due to the release of hormones into the blood, which act on the body like a drug. In men, in addition to the above, there is an increase in the penis, an increase in the scrotum to the pubis, its swelling and thickening, as well as a pre-ejaculate release to lubricate the head.
In women, there is additional lubrication, thinning or, on the contrary, enlargement of the labia majora (depending on whether the woman has given birth or not), clitoral erection, lifting and enlargement of the uterus, tension of the pubosacral muscles, and an increase in the length of the vagina.
By the way, if reddening of the skin is observed in men in rare cases, then in women rushes of blood occur not only on the clitoris and labia, but also on the chest and back. In some women, this flush is so significant that the area between the chest to the shoulder and neck may be scarlet during and after orgasm.
Why are there so many reactions? They are associated with a rush of blood, which the body acts to achieve greater sensitivity in the genital organs, and readiness for the second stage in the cycle of sexual reactions - intercourse. After the arousal phase there is: the Plateau phase (sexual intercourse), the orgasm phase and the completion phase of sexual reactions.
The arousal phase may not occur. This is often a physical rather than a psychological problem. Erectile dysfunction (impotence) is a disorder in which the strength of the erection is not sufficient for sexual intercourse. There are three types of impotence: psychological, organic and mixed.
In most men, erectile dysfunction is related to the organic form caused by various diseases. The most common causes of this are cardiovascular disease, diabetes and hormonal disorders. The quality of blood supply to organs and hormonal levels are affected.
With some diseases, bad habits, taking certain drugs, especially those that affect the central nervous system, and a sedentary lifestyle, the blood flow to the pelvic organs is weakened, which is why the mainsexual arousal reaction in men - filling of cavernous bodies with blood.
Drugs, alcohol and smoking affect not only the physical state, but also the psychological state, which is why impotence goes from an organic form to a mixed form. You cannot delay this situation; at first it can be easily corrected. You need to see a urologist or a sex therapist.
Men become sexually aroused much more often than reaching orgasm. Long-term abstinence can seriously damage the body in general and the genitals in particular. The women's motto "we will excite you and not let you down" is good in moderation - you should not overuse such entertainment. Sexual dissatisfaction affects not only physical health but also mental health. The man becomes nervous, angry, irritable. A regular orgasm is an important condition for the normal functioning of the body. And there is almost no difference in how it is obtained - during sex or masturbation.